The Words We Speak

If you have ever been in a verbal confrontation with someone, you know that truths can easily be over-stated.  We often say things like, "You always..." or "How come you never...".  The truth is (and most of us know this) that comments that essentialize or over-state a reality are neither true nor helpful.         

But there are times when those kinds of (if you will) extreme and dramatic words are needed.  One of those situations is when Paul writes to the Church at Ephesus and in the 4th chapter says this:

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your moths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption."

Paul uses a very strong word when he says 'any'.  Here's my modern-day translation of Paul's writing: Do not let any unwholesome talk come from you, but instead your words should be all about building others up.  And in case you were wondering how God feels about unwholesome talk - it grieves Him.

Are my words defined by encouragement and edification?  Do I give myself leeway to say 'just a few' unwholesome or unhelpful things a day?  Paul doesn't give us that option.  And yet what he does tell us is that we have been given the opportunity  to bless and encourage others with our words.

Is my life characterized by words that build others up?  God, please help it to be so.

- tC